Wednesday, December 17, 2008


From time to time (ok most of the time) I feel guilty about the things I don't get done in a day... in a week... in a month. Near the top of that list (kinda near blogging) is keeping in close contact with friends.  The sad truth is that unless I work with or near them, it just doesn't happen on a regular basis.  Luckily a lot of my friends are mommies so they "get it".  They live it.  But some of them aren't and I always wonder if they feel like I've abandoned them.  I think some non-mommy folks tend to feel that once a friend has kids, that friend decides nothing exists in life other than their new bundle of joy.  Its not exactly true - but the result ends up being the same.  So many of the moms I know tell me how they wish they could live a double life - have the child they ardore but still have plenty of free time to get in spa trips, shopping, and time with girlfriends.  But the bottom line is that you don't.  And since you are responsible for the life you brought into the world - you happily accept that fact.  But it hurts when your friends don't.

One of my best mommy friends sent me this article, and while perhaps a little harsh on the questioner, still makes a very valid point.  I'm posting it here for all to see.  If its too small in the frame below, just click on it and it will open up an enlarged view.

1 comment:

Erik U. said...

Great post, Kristi! I assume this can apply to daddy's, too? :) As your husband can attest, I've been a pretty crappy friend post-college. Sometimes life causes a person to modify their priorities, but that doesn't mean you stop caring about the people that were in your life before marriage / kids. Thanks for passing along your perspective. I always enjoy reading what you have to say!